This is an interconnected concept that brings about personal growth and fulfillment. Is the soul responsible for Self-Actualization and thriving?
It's a great question to explore? The ego has not brought this type of life-style in the past - it is basically based on survival.
Let’s break it down.
Soul - the inner energy or essence of a person that encompasses value, beliefs, emotions, your identity. Your unique vibration and expression of your truest self. In the past we believed that it (your essence) lived outside of you.
Self-actualization - is the process of fulfilling one's potentials based upon your strengths, talents, gifts. It is the deep striving we have for personal growth, authenticity, deep desires, passions and the ever seeking purpose of life.
Thriving - a state of optimal well-being. It encompasses happiness, success and feeling fulfilled. People who thrive are known to engage in experiences that are positive, meaningful, and healthy. The deep sense of accomplishment and fulfillment.
The connection between these 3 concepts is the pursuit of a meaningful, experiential and fulfilled life. Where this becomes an issue is in the alignment. Because in order to achieve self-actualization you have to align your thoughts, emotions, actions and decisions with your values, beliefs, and purpose.
How is this achieved? You have to explore your passions, talents and potentials. The first thing is to realize your potential, make a decision about what to pursue. This creates a sense of thriving because you are aligning with your authentic self.
The process is not looking for meaning and then thriving finds you. NO. The process is knowing yourself, acting upon your passions and then creating meaning.
Who doesn’t want a satisfying life. One that fulfills you versus suffering.
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Welcome to the Blueprint podcast, where the blueprint of understanding a new and unified world is in our shifting consciousness.Speaker 2:
Hey everyone, thanks for joining the Blueprint podcast. I'm Genshel Ablajahn. I have Renee Keen with me today. Hi, renee, how are you Good?Speaker 3:
day, Angela. Yeah, it's a great day. I'm having a good one. Looks like you are too Absolutely.Speaker 2:
Why not?Speaker 3:
Hey, that's what this is all about.Speaker 2:
For sure.Speaker 3:
Every day is a new day and you get to create what you want.Speaker 2:
Yes, for sure. Alright, so I thought we would talk about the soul's responsibility for self-actualization, because we're kind of on this self-actualization process And what it all has to do with thriving, because we know from our past history as a human race that thriving has not actually been within the realm of reality for a good portion of humanity, and the reason being throughout history is because we've aligned with the ego and the ego's limitations. So I think that it's a great question to explore. And we have these sort of concepts, these interconnected concepts, that bring about this personal growth and fulfillment. Well, how do we actually have personal growth and fulfillment? It takes a growth mindset for, first of all, and then moving up the ladder of Maslow's hierarchy into self-actualization. And what is the soul's responsibility for self-actualization and thriving? So what's your opinion, renee?Speaker 3:
I find it a very interesting question that you pose, as I had never really given it any thought.Speaker 2:
Yeah, I don't think it's anything that we do think about.Speaker 3:
I have never looked at what my soul's responsibility is in this whole piece And as I looked at that I kind of had a little aha of could possibly? could it that possibly be why we never really get to the thriving piece Because we don't engage the soul?Speaker 2:
I think for me, i think that that plays a large part, because if I'm really, you know, wandering through life and I'm just paying attention to the ego and using logical thought, using, you know, all the things that were taught, am I fulfilled? Like that's a huge, huge question. I think the older that you get, for me, in particular, the older that I've become, the more I'm asking that question like what is fulfilling for me? Because I can escape into boredom real easily and it's very quick, but I can't escape into fulfillment, it seems, because of the way that I've actually maybe lived my life for such a long time. And when we ask this question of thriving and, you know, living in fulfillment, which is really what self actualization is, there comes this point, i think, in our life where we literally have to say, well, okay, have I been fulfilled? There have been points in my life where I've been fulfilled, but what is it every single day And overall, if I look at my you know, if I'm going to do a life review at the end, which is what we say we believe in, right, how much of that is actual fulfillment And how much of it is actual struggle.Speaker 3:
And how do I sustain that feeling? How do not even have to be, it's not even, it's more than a feeling. How do I sustain Excuse me, how do I sustain that fulfillment from more than, like, this little instance that just fills me all up? How do I carry that forward and make it last in forever? And as I've gotten older, i find it is because I am not pulling all of my aspects in, which is what I was kind of saying about the soul. For the larger part of my life, my soul is over here somewhere. Yeah, that's my soul. It'll take care of me or whatever, or not, you know, but I have not fully embodied or in or activated my relationship with my soul. I've been working on that And I am. I love what's happening for me. I think a lot of us are just. We just don't engage all the pieces, all the aspects of us, and I think that's what limits our thriving. That's why this moment of fulfillment lasts this long instead of lifelong, and for each of us that's a little different process and how we look at that. I fully am aware now that the soul is a big piece of that. Yeah, it's not separate from the soul, is not a separate part of me that lives somewhere else. Right, the soul is a part of me.Speaker 2:
Well, i think that maybe we need to break these three things down the soul, self actualization and thriving right. So the soul is basically in, in my opinion. You might differ in this and everybody else might differ in this, but in my opinion it's our unique vibration, it's the thing that makes us our natural expression of our truest self, right. And so, if that is, when in our lives have we ever been taught about our own unique expression of our truest self? I can tell you never, until I started asking questions.Speaker 3:
Yes, yes.Speaker 2:
Yeah, so it's always been something that's been separated from us. I mean, all of you know my religious background has taught me that even psychology, the psychology world, has sort of taught us that. because, you know we're not, we're taught to deal with the emotions and the thought processes, never the spirit or the energy of who you are, the truest components of who you are. So you know, i've never, ever, until I started having these deep yearnings to know more like it never even came up in a subject and never even came up in conversation. So for me, that's what the soul is like, that, like your own vibration, your own unique energy, your own unique natural self. Do you have anything different?Speaker 3:
I fully am on board with you on that, that is. I want to just state that that is why it has taken I'm speaking for myself It has taken so many years for me to actually see myself. Yeah, because this whole piece of me has been over here. Yes, and until I, until I invited it to. You know, work with me and I work with this. It's a piece of me which sounds really weird, but you know, you can lock a piece of you in a closet and never look at it For sure. So till you open the door and look at that piece of you Mm, hmm And open up to all these wonderful experiences, and it doesn't say, wow, you really do have that. That really resides within you.Speaker 2:
It's almost like it's been cast as our shadow, like the soul is almost. You know our unique, special abilities have been cast over time. That's the way I felt, like even in my family history and society. Still like it's. Still it's cast as a shadow, which is, in my opinion, one of the horrific things that we do to humanity.Speaker 3:
Yeah, kind of like oh, when you die you'll meet your soul, yeah right. That was kind of my whole understanding as I was growing up. Well, no, that's your authentic vibration.Speaker 2:
Right, that is you. It's like this experience never took into account that portion, the portion of us that is, in my opinion, the most important.Speaker 3:
Yeah, we've aligned with all these other things, All these other, in many cases untruths about us. Yeah, for sure.Speaker 2:
All right, self actualization So that's really the process of fulfillment, right one, fulfilling your potentials, the opportunities that we have throughout the course of a life existence right, and basically it's based on your strengths, your talents, your gifts. But for me it's been a deep striving for self actualization and for personal growth. Like I've been on this personal growth journey, my whole entire life is based in authenticity, like really being my own natural self. Deep desires, passions, like all of these things that fulfill a purpose or fulfill a mission, your mission in life, like what's your real reason for even being here. So what's your version of self actualization?Speaker 3:
My version of self actualization is is to be so in line with who I truly am, and that, for me, is embracing all of it, unifying with all the pieces, looking at things that some people would refer to as shadow, looking at things that I've closed the door on. As I mentioned before, self actualization is being able to look at all of that and not going Oh, i did that, oh, i'm going to. you know, it's being able to go, oh, okay, this is what I did. Why did I do it? Did it serve me? did it serve others? just being able to ask those questions without that freak out and being able to say, yeah, that is actually me, is that why? is that where I want to continue to go? I want to look at that and see if there's a different choice for me. So for me, that's the process of self actualization is looking at all of that and as I move into that, it becomes fulfilling, because then I I get to see who I am And I get to embrace the pieces of me that some people might not think are great And and some pieces of me that I didn't even know were there, that I don't think are great. Right, it's, it's looking at the whole picture, which, in this new world, what we're moving into, you, it is all new And we get to look at the whole picture. So I don't want to take some of these pieces along. I want to stay here. Right, i want to move forward. I want to self actualize within myself so that I can be better for everyone else, and that's not even accurate, that's not even an accurate way to say it. Better for yourself, it's better for myself. It's not really about anyone else. No, it's not about anyone else. The minute that came out it was like that's all stop.Speaker 2:
Yeah, yeah.Speaker 3:
I love it. I love that I'm at a point where I catch it, Yeah for sure It's like it almost it comes out and it's like wait a minute, that's not it.Speaker 2:
Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right. so let's move on to the thriving. So, literally, i feel like it's a state of optimal well being, like the like, it's the deep sense, it's a deep sense of accomplishment and fulfillment, like I know that, i know that, i know right, like there's no doubt, there's like just you're just in constant thriving. Like positive, meaningful, healthy experience. For me, that's, that's what thriving is. It's like it's like making it rain in the jungle on a perfectly blue sky and Ruben saying you can't do that. Oh yeah, i can't watch me, but I just did. You know that's those moments of bliss like why don't?Speaker 3:
we have them all the time.Speaker 2:
Like that's what thriving is. It's like you knowing and understanding your own power and you're using it Right, Like you're using your power.Speaker 3:
That's a key piece. The thriving isn't just for me, anyway, about, oh, everything's going smooth and it's all nice and it's looking good. That's not thriving, that's existence. That's existence. Thriving is when it's it's like you almost want to bust from the inside out like, wow, look what I created, wow, isn't this glorious moment, and that's how I want to live. Every day, every moment of every day. That's what's thriving for me being just in that Well, you use the word bliss just being in that state, and we can do that.Speaker 2:
We really can We can, i mean, even though you live in a world of duality, where there's extreme opposites, you can still be in, thriving in a world of opposites. But what does it take to get there right? So the connection between all three of these components or concepts is this pursuit of meaning, like that's what we base it on. I feel like This meaning, like everything, has to have deep, purposeful meaning. For me, it's more about the experiential portions of it and what I can learn and what I can grow into, what I can take from my shadow side, transform and put it into what I really want in life. You know, having that extreme fulfillment of life. And how do we get that Like, how does it become achieved? How does self-actualization become an achievement and something that we can actually pursue in life? So for me, there's the alignment component, and that's something that I think the world talks about all the time. But how do we actually move into a state of pure alignment? Now, i'm not talking about alignment for a certain cause or a certain thing that you want to do in your life, like I moved into alignment when I got my master's degree right, but that's not necessary. That was to fulfill a goal, it wasn't to fulfill a self-actualized process, like it's a lifelong journey, self-actualization, i feel. But what has to happen is the alignment of your thoughts, the alignment of your emotions, your actions, any decisions that you have, your values need to align all of your belief systems, which is the big blockage, in my opinion And it all needs to align with your purpose and your mission for even being here. Like what's your soul's purpose for being here? What is your soul's experience that it wants to grow and expand into And how do you move into, how do you know that? Like that's the big question, i feel. Like how do you know what your soul's purpose really is In the big picture, the 360 viewpoint? like how do we know? Because we're just taking step by step every single day, right, and we really want to know what it is so that we can actually just go for it and do it. That's what self-actualization is in my opinion. It's like it's the journey to get to the purpose.Speaker 3:
Most definitely, it is the journey I'm going to say. The first component that I saw when looking at all of this was I had to be willing to look at everything, at all aspects of myself. I had to be willing to work through the hard stuff. I had to be willing to know that the other side, on the other side, it was going to give me more than I was going to be able to align with. I think that's the step, that what I see is the most difficult for people Yeah, we say oh, yeah, i'm going to quit eating chocolate. I'm going to tell them what I might do. And that's with the self-actualization. It's like, yeah, i want to dig in, i want to dig in. So one day I might really be working hard on myself And the next day I'm like, yeah, i'm going to go out or whatever. It's that piece of committing to oneself that in every moment I'm going to work on self-actualization and really being committed to it. And that doesn't mean that you don't get to have fun. I actually find it more fun. Yeah, because I'm leaving a lot of that behind. Yeah, that doesn't the old belief patterns, the old things that you really understand now that they're not actually true. So when you can let some of that go, it's like life is better, life is more interesting. There's just more. There's always more. And in actually seeing who I am and bringing that forward, what a. It's just fun. Yeah, it doesn't mean I'm going to be tears or whatever. You know you have moments, but that's the process. That's the process in anything.Speaker 2:
Right And well, I think I think that tears needs Okay, first of all. Okay, let's. I think that you brought up a good point. The willingness to heal yourself, the willingness to look at your own talents, Like that's a huge fear for a good portion of people because we've never been taught that. The willingness to actually bring in and embody your, your real, the real you like, that's again you know it's been shadowed, shadowed so much that we're that we like, are afraid of it, We're afraid of our power, And so that that willingness component is probably the first step. You have to be willing to do it right, to take a look, to do the work. I mean, I'm not saying that it's easy work. Some of it's real hard work. To look at yourself, to look at how powerful you have you are, how powerful you have been in the past And I'm not talking about just this lifetime, but memory will come in when you start to go down this actualization path And you know you start to like look at all the things that you have been, you have been, not what you've done, what you have been, and some of those things can be very difficult for our ego, But the soul becomes very determined in the fact that it is here to heal all of those ego experiences and to transform them into wisdom, like the big picture of why we do things, The big picture of who we really are and why we have this kind of a experience in duality and what the purpose of it all is. I mean, all of that stuff starts to flood in And the willingness I think becomes very endangered when the ego says no, When the ego steps in and says yeah, no, we're not doing this because I don't want to know everything that I can't. I don't want to remember everything that we've actually.Speaker 3:
I really have to know it all.Speaker 2:
I mean, that's a big fear as well, and I think that that's again some of the reasons that are some of the things that stop us from moving into the path of self actualization and thriving like not all of us are wanting to thrive, because you know what do we do. Then we can't fall back into our own lack and we actually have to take 100% responsibility for our amazingness. You know that's not something that we're used to. So when we move into thriving in this process, you know not, the process is not looking for meaning And then thriving finds. You know that's not how the process works. The process is knowing yourself, acting upon your passions and these deep yearnings that the soul brings to you, because the ego just wants to be lazy, so it will never bring a deep yearning, it just wants to me, it just wants to stay static, quo, you know but the soul brings in these deep yearnings, these deep like knowing that all of us have. but we have to recognize them And then meaning gets created from that. So Absolutely. And who doesn't want, you know, a satisfying life, a fulfilled life versus pain and suffering.Speaker 3:
And there's a lot of that kind of attitude adjustment that goes with that, because you do get to decide. Well, yeah, i kind of like sitting over here in this pain and suffering And it's like, no, i really don't. But you know, when we've been so, it's so ingrained, it's so ingrained in us that that's the piece when you start working on your own stuff, that it's so great when you can let that just go or transform it into more of what you're looking for, more of who you are And what you, what you want to bring forth as to who you are in your, in your uniqueness.Speaker 2:
Yeah, so what do you think about the thought process around we have so many layers. do you, do you buy into that sort of mentality, or do you have experience where you can transform something? layers, layers upon layers upon layers, instantaneously. So?Speaker 3:
I think I've experienced. I'm not going to say anything. I know I've experienced both. Yeah, for me it looks like it. It may be a choice we make at some point in time. I know you can transform stuff. Now, all the way down, all the layers, boom gone. I just did something like that a month ago with someone And it was really awesome, so I know it can be done. I also know sometimes our process is that well, i can only handle this much, so it's not necessary to have layers, and as we become more evolved, we drop the layers. Yeah, i just I think that it's like it really, when you're ready to let it go, man, it gets gone, it's gone, and sometimes not fully ready to let it all transform.Speaker 2:
Well, that's where the willingness comes in. Right like the will. Like I think that I think that we need to reevaluate what will is Right, like internal will Yeah, you know, because I think that there's, you know, like what is will. Like that was a big thing. When I was growing up, my mother would always say, oh, you have such a strong will. I'd be like I don't even know what that is.Speaker 3:
Is that a good thing, or is that a bad thing? What does this mean, mother?Speaker 2:
Usually it was a bad thing because I was, you know, rushing up against her and she was like find a way to ease it. Stop it, just stop it. You have such a strong will, yeah, but you know, I think that I think that will needs to be reevaluated, because I think that you need to have a strong will in order to self-actualize. Otherwise there's like why is it a bad thing to have a strong will?Speaker 3:
I don't see that, as even with young kids, you know when they look at little ones running around oh, there's a willful one or there's someone, it's like good, yay, yeah, they're gonna thrive because they know what they want, they understand things, they're moving forward.Speaker 2:
Yeah, well, you know, it's your determination to be who you are, like what is so? I've never understood that whole concept of why that's such a wrong thing to you know, and I'm constantly questioning things, and I think that that in my childhood it was seen as questioning authority. You know, like, just do as I say, kind of mentality. And we still have that very much in our, especially in the USA. Just do as I say, kind of thing, society, yeah. Yeah, and I think that, well, for me it was very detrimental because I hid, i started to hide myself And I think that, you know, because of that, because, oh, you just stop using your will, you know, stop having such strong will And so it was like really seen as a detriment, but actually it's one of my biggest powers, because I do question everything, and it is something that I use when I'm trying to explore my own self right If you don't have internal will about exploring who you are, bringing up your shadow, understanding your gifts and abilities and your natural talents, the naturalness of who you are. I feel like the ego takes over and just compensates and just says, yeah, just be status quo.Speaker 3:
You know, and exactly what I totally, it's that ego jumps in and then it's like no, no, everyone's wearing pink today. So you must do Yeah, i don't like pink, no, everyone's wearing pink today. It's that status quo and that's the difference. We, our will was dumb down because you had to look this way or you know, and that still goes on, just like you said. So one of the big things for me as I've evolved in this and I think it kind of goes along with the whole message in the process of self-actualization, in moving forward and doing some of the things I do now, i did go through this time period where it's like what are they gonna think of me If I start having people at my house for certain things? what are my friends who've been my friends forever? What are they gonna think of me? Yeah, it didn't last long because it was like I don't care, but it is a piece of the process of actualization I can't even say it of self-actualization. Part of the process is looking at all that.Speaker 1:
Does it matter what?Speaker 3:
the outside world, or your friends or your family think about you? Maybe it does, and maybe you only will up to a certain point for you, but when you can get beyond that, so much more comes in so easily. It's like letting go of the ego just a little bit more, and then there's more room for you, the actual you.Speaker 2:
Yeah, that's when that step by step, layer by layer experience comes in. is because you're willing to do this much, and then you're willing to do this much, and then this much. Some of us like to jump off the cliff not mentioning names. I did you, and just go ahead first and just see what happens, and so I think that I'm not willing to do the step by step. I'm willing to literally jump off the cliff because that's too slow, it's too boring for me, but for some people we have clients that are just like no, i need to do it step by step, which is perfect. Let's do step by step. I can help you with that. Exactly, you know, and so the will, i think need is one of the main components, like your willingness to actually make a change, to even To jump off the cliff or Or to do step by step. But I think that that's part of self actualization is understanding and making decisions that are appropriate for who you are. Just because I jump off the cliff doesn't mean you have to jump off the cliff, exactly Because cliff jumping is not for everyone. It gets it, it's a big, it's a big energy, and sometimes it doesn't turn out too well. You got a backup and say, oh, i should have took a couple steps before. I jumped off that cliff.Speaker 3:
And I will say I have done both.Speaker 2:
My process has included both. There have been times where it's just like hell, yeah, here I come, i'm going, nobody's stopping me.Speaker 1:
There's been other times where somebody else is waiting for me.Speaker 2:
I think that that's part of the soul, like literally pushing you into you know, like for me. I think that the soul literally pushes me and says let's just go, let's just do it, because you know, part of you has already done a good portion of this before, in a different lifetime or a different experience. So let's just do it, let's just go, let's like OK. So I think that the I think in self-actualization, i think it's totally driven by the soul. I think that ego takes a step back and says, ok, i'm out.Speaker 3:
You're in charge now. yeah, Yeah.Speaker 2:
Yeah, exactly.Speaker 3:
I would tend to agree with you on that, which takes us back to earlier in the conversation, when we were talking about is your soul here a part of you? have you activated your relationship with your soul, or is your soul still somewhere out, somewhere else?Speaker 2:
Yeah, have you embodied that aspect of you that you know? yeah, have you embodied that aspect of you? Are you a soul being here or, you know, is your ego still dominating the show? But in self actualization, i don't believe that ego can or thriving. I don't believe that, that that the ego plays a role. If it does, it's very minimal.Speaker 3:
I was going to say when you met thriving thing. I think egos is in the closet or the far corner. Yeah, just not really very present.Speaker 2:
Right. Yeah, i always used to say I'd put my ego in the bathroom and I would let it out until I said come out, because I needed to do some soul work here.Speaker 3:
Probably took that from you and said mind's in the closet.Speaker 2:
Yeah, Yeah. so is the soul responsible for self actualization? My opinion says yes.Speaker 3:
Which leads you to thriving.Speaker 2:
Yes, exactly, and that's what I'm here for thriving, i'm not here for suffering and any of that kind of thing.Speaker 3:
No, no And again go ahead.Speaker 2:
Well, once you, once you get into thriving and you get into those moments of bliss like you that's all you want in life, like that becomes your driver because it's so fulfilling there I don't have. I don't find fulfillment in suffering Like I understand the process of suffering. I understand that you know you have to like for lots of people being in a bad mood or sad mood or crying, like they consider that suffering. I don't feel like that is actual suffering. I mean it is part of the process to get to something else. You know whatever's on the other side of it, but it's not necessarily suffering And I think that I don't know. I feel like this whole concept of you have to suffer in order to know yourself is just BS, like agreed, totally wrong. I don't buy into that belation. That's an old boy.Speaker 3:
And and I know there'll be a lot of people who don't agree with this, but I do think that you choose to suffer, yes, and I'm not saying that hard things don't happen to people or that right Different. I'm not ignoring that. But you can look at, i can look at any number of people who, from my perception, might be considered, oh wow, they're really suffering. They may be having the time of their life Yeah, it's like and and so for them. That's not suffering, right, that's, that's what they enjoy. So it's that labeling of terms. Again, i choose not to look at the suffering in situations. I mean I choose to look at And doesn't mean I don't cry when something sad or whatever, but I'm looking at the other piece of it. I don't want to look at the suffering side. I want to look at the beauty, the wonder, the gift that has been, and what's the gift within all of what's going on, that some people are choosing to suffer around, right, yeah, and again, i don't know, that's that's all based in perception and what you believe it is. It is and we were taught. Many of us were taught you need to suffer to get to a certain point. Therefore, there's that belief. That's one of the beliefs that got rid of first the need to suffer. Nope, i agree, need to suffer. No no, no, no. The thriving pieces, just Yes, i'd like to say I'm living in thriving way more now than I've ever had in In most of my existence, yeah, most of my lifetimes. It's way more now. Not all of them, But in many, many, many, many of them It's like sometimes they're just. They're just, aren't even words for the experience when you're in that thriving mode. Yeah.Speaker 2:
I think that this is, like you know, we talk about new earth, new world, new self mentality a lot, and I think that this is one of the components to it creates a baseline for the new, new you, for the new earth. It's not. You know, our baseline into this new earth is not suffering, it is thriving. And where do we get to go from thriving?Speaker 3:
Yeah, yeah, i agree.Speaker 2:
Well, that seems very complete.Speaker 3:
Sounds like it is, doesn't it?Speaker 2:
This is something to look forward to.Speaker 3:
Yes, it really does. There is so much wonder and delight in the experiences out there for each and every one of us, for sure, yeah, right away.Speaker 2:
Yeah, i want to thank you so much for joining me today. It's been such a pleasure.Speaker 3:
Thank you for the invitation. I enjoyed it myself.Speaker 2:
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