Ready to tear down the walls of self-sabotage that are holding you back from success and happiness? This episode of the Blueprint podcast is your ticket to doing exactly that. We explore the subtle ways in which we unconsciously sabotage our own growth and success. From the reluctance to put ourselves out there to the unhelpful constraints we impose on ourselves, we dive right into how these practices act as barriers to our personal growth.
Ever wondered where these self-sabotaging behaviors originate from? Often, they are deeply rooted in traumas and experiences that have left an imprint on our psyche. These behaviors frequently arise from fears instilled in us from a young age, shaping our actions and behaviors into limiting beliefs. This episode sheds light on this psychological landscape, offering insights on how to recognize and overcome these patterns. It's time to dismantle the walls of self-sabotage and pave the way towards self-actualization and success. Tune in and let's journey together!
Hey everyone, thank you for joining me here on the Blueprint podcast. I hope that you're having the most amazing day. Okay, so this week we want to talk about self-sabotaging practices. It's definitely the root, I feel, in self-actualization, because when we can understand how we work at such a deep level, then your ability to be seen in the world, to have mastery in who you are and what you choose to do here it makes it so much easier and there's just a simple flow that happens. So we're going to talk about breaking down these walls of sabotaging. Now, there's lots of different types of sabotage, self-sabotage and you can look those up on Google if you like but I want to talk about the ones that lead you to success, because in 2024, literally all the energies of the universe are really pushing us for success because of the new earth frequencies, the new earth mentalities, like getting rid of all lack and getting rid of those kinds of things, even though we have more people probably struggling in the world financially, emotionally, mentally, physically than we ever have before. And this is the way the universe of duality works right it's being seen. What needs to transform becomes larger and larger and larger, so that we can see it in every area of our life, and so I really want us to dive deeper into this today. So let's breaking down the walls, like how do you break, how do you recognize, how do you recognize your own self-sabotaging practices? Do you recognize them, right? Like, what causes you, what causes your hindrance to success, to all the abundances of the world, of the universe? How do you recognize them? And they're very subtle, you know. So sabotaging practices are very, very subtle. For example, well, a podcast not being heard or seen. Like I do both of them. I do the video to put on YouTube and I do the voice just for podcasting. So if I didn't want to do the video, then it would make a real boring video for YouTube, right? Or for Instagram, and so that could be a huge self-sabotaging practice, like not being willing or not feeling comfortable, not being able to speak my own voice, really monitoring the words that I use, to fit in, like that. That would be a self-sabotaging practice for me. So when we're diving into these practices, these self-sabotaging practices, we have to look at the root, like what is the origin of self-sabotaging behaviors? Most generally, throughout my work in the psychology world, it's been traumas, things that we have experienced throughout our lives and have created a traumatic effect in our psyche and the way that we think and the way that we feel and the way that we practice and the way that we behave and our behaviors and these traumas or these experiences that have sort of imprinted something within you, some sort of energy block or some sort of way to believe in yourself. They're generally rooted in fear, like fear of not fitting in, for example, fear of being seen, because you were told by I don't know caretaker when you were younger that you're supposed to be seen. You know you can be seen but not heard. Right. That creates a fear within you, like that's. These past experiences become limiting beliefs about who we are and about how we can represent ourselves in the world. So there's a whole psychological landscape that needs to be dove into when we're looking for the root, and generally the root comes, generally it's in childhood, but it can be an adult for sure. You know post traumatic stress disorders from having extreme experiences in your adult life can create, can create these rooting kinds of sabotaging behaviors. So one thing that you can do is look for your patterns or things that trigger you. I'm working with my team right now about some, some traders, about goals for 2024. And the word goal is a huge trigger for people Like it's, like we have failure around that and we have fear of setting goals and then disappointing ourselves, you know, because we don't follow through. But the real. So the word goal is the trigger, but what's the real root here? Disappointing yourself, abandoning yourself, having thoughts or experiences where you literally not not fallen through or not followed through in your life, you know, and that creates a pattern. And these, that's what happens when, when we create these behaviors is self sabotaging behaviors as they become patterns. So how do we overcome them? Well, it requires self compassion, self love, decisions, decision making to overcome them. And how can you actually what? What can you do? This is where the how comes in right. What can you do? That that creates a resilience, see in in you, that creates a confidence. You know, when we have success, we become more confident. So what kinds of triggers? Like looking at those triggers and saying, okay, well, what can I do? That's maybe opposite of that. That will actually help me build resistance and and confidence to overcome that. And then you know, maybe the maybe, the follow through changes, maybe it's maybe the goals that you set in the past weren't really your goals. Maybe there were someone else's goals. We do that a lot as humans. We take someone else's goals. They, oh, I want that goal. Like at the beginning of every year, we take a big push for becoming healthy. Right, big giant push for becoming healthy, create exercise goals and food goals and all the things. That's that goal. It's that really really your goal? When we take on someone else's goal or we take on the programming and pretend like it's useful for us, we're going to sabotage ourselves. I mean because we're going to look for ways to get out of it. That's just how we work. The thing is to rewrite the narrative, like honestly, rewrite your story. You know, if, if wellness, health and wellness is not your goal at the beginning of every single year, then stop taking that on. And then you have to ask yourself really, what is it that you really do desire? What is it that you really really really desire? Maybe it's to just stop eating sugar and that becomes your health goal. Or maybe it's, you know, to go out and explore the world more. Maybe it's to have adventure more. We deny ourselves of adventure all the time, and adventures do not have to cost a fortune, going out and walking in the woods or taking a I don't know, and then taking a, borrowing someone's kayak and going for a kayak. It can be anything. It can be just, you know, creating a new relationship with someone, meeting someone new, saying hello to someone at the coffee shop and you're like, hey, how's it going today, you know, and you really start a meaningful conversation. That can be an adventure for some of us, especially for introverts. Another thing to take a to really pay attention to is self-sabotage. Is how do you love yourself? You know, cultivating that self-love, that confidence, that knowing yourself, working into self-mastery We've done so many videos on you know, mastery, self-actualization how do we really break the chain of self-sabotage? Well, the first thing is to know and understand who you are, how you work, how you show up, how you don't show up, and being okay with that, oh, like not being so secretive with your life that you hide from the world, right, because you're afraid that somebody's going to say something to you or you're going to be criticized, or you know there's always going to be somebody out there who doesn't agree with who you are. Who cares? Who cares? Pay them no attention, give them not, do not create an energy leak with them. Okay, so I hope that this helps you in self-sabotaging practices. It's really we're really being led energy-wise, consciously, to overcome these sort of practices, these behaviors that we've created patterns around. So self-sabotage is in 20 for 24. It's either going to get really, really vivid for you, which gives you the opportunity right the opportunity to overcome it so that you can move into abundances, so that you can move into self-care, self-love, overcoming the resilience or the resistances of your success. Like you, being successful should be your number one goal in 2024. Success maybe that's a trigger. Maybe that word is a trigger because you haven't felt like you've achieved that before, or you've achieved it and then you lost it. You know like it's all about you holding the energy of what you really desire, and it's okay to change what you desire, but then be ready to hold the energy of what your new desire is. Not comparing yourself like that's the number one thing to overcoming any kind of sabotaging practice. Do not compare yourself to anyone else in the world. Let your focus, your mission, your purpose be the only goal. Let that be your goal. So tell us what your goals are. What is it that you want to achieve in 2024? It's going to be an amazing year, so I don't know, like, what are you going to do to move deeper into the abundances of the universe? That's what we live in. We live in all the abundances. We don't live in lack. We don't live in lack any longer. That's the old days. That was 2023. 2024 is about success, honestly. So I hope that you've enjoyed this. Please like, share and subscribe, and leave us a message. We'd love to hear from you. Thank you for joining and have the most amazing day.